I understand your problem, unfortunately I have older military information (from the 1980s) that includes recommended depths for Olin and Remington products, all of them recommended a seating depth (from the base of the case to the top of the primer cup) of .002" to .006". I personally seat mine to around .004" plus or minus a couple thousandths since it's not possible to seat every primer exactly the same. I use a pocket uniformer in order to get as consistent seating depth as possible and I use it every time I reload a case so that there is no carbon build up. Unfortunately I suspect that foreign brands of primers may not conform to this standard so it without data I'd say that you would have to experiment before you could find some reliable seating depth. Regardless, I don't recommend seating flush nor do I recommend seating until you deform the cup.