I wasn't going to respond to this but after reading it and seeing the number of pages showing how many of us have this pain issue i will. As i write this i'm sitting here an old man who has lived a very active outdoors life style. Doing so meant at times that there could and was going to be stays in the hospitals, and there has been more of those than most people incounter in their lives. One of the biggest problems i think is that while i was young and laying in that hospital bed i could still look down at my chest and see that big red letter "S" on my chest, yes i know now how dumb that sounds but some of you will understand it. (besides the doctors always told me i would heal, ...but they lied)
The bottom line is simple at this point, because of the things i did during my life i have a total of nine ruptured disks in my back, five lower and four in my neck. In 2002 i was told that at some point within six months to a year i would sit down and not get back up again. This scared me so bad that after i finished learning how to walk again i made it a point that no matter what the pain i would do my bucket list and i have.
The point i'm trying to make here is that your life didn't end when you got hurt, it just changed. It is now 2018 and i am still living my life the way i want considering all the things that happened along the way. What happens now to you is up to you, you are the only one who can choose how you will live from here on out.
I have had two lower back surgeries because my left leg quit working, the rest i live with. Yes there is pain and always will be, that is just the way it is. Here is the deal with your pain, if your injury is new then yes it hurts like hell, but as time goes by you become used to it, because it is always going to be there and after a period of time your mind will deal with it and it becomes an accepted part of your life. Pain Meds are or may be needed right after your surgery, but if you keep using them you end up with two more problems besides the pain, your head becomes fuzzy and that will keep you from doing the rehab you must do to get back into life. The second problem is that now you also have a drug habit to kick as your trying to overcome everything else.
There are two more points i would like to make here, one is that the more surgeries you have the mores chances something can/will go wrong. The second one is something you had better consider before any surgery of any kind. Look up the surgery you are going to have and look up what the end results are 5-6-10 years are down the road after the surgery. How many of those people still feel better ? How many wish they had never done it because the pain ended up being worse than before ? Not looking this up before hand is the biggest mistake you can make. Please really think this over before going ahead, surgery is something you can't take back after it's done.
I'm now sixteen years into this and i can,(most days) walk 1-2 miles every morning, i go to the range at least once a week and predator hunt once a week, i have found that exercise is one of THE keys to overcoming what may look like a hopeless life change, but it's only hopeless if you let it be. What it is, is that you have simply encountered a bump in the road, overcome it and do whatever you want afterwords.