I've been missing for a while, slowly getting back.

[Retired shooter]

Yip after 36 yrs that would suck, big time. We all know two sides to every story, however sounds like you are better off, and with time it will be get better. Keep busy with the rest of life, dont dwell on it, that can eat up a person real quick. Dont be ashamed to talk to your doc, some times the medication helps.

Even after 50 yrs with the same woman I ask myself Am I better off with her, or without. ? So far we have stuck it out. Think both of us to bull headed and stubborn to walk away.

Hang tough.!

 

[Larry Koch]

Long story short I have been through a divorce after 36 years of marriage. Wife decided she didn't want to be married anymore and took her shit and left. Kids are all grown and families of their own (they are just as confused as me). She gave me the house that is paid for because she makes triple the money that I do so even with the house paid for she stuck me in a jam. She filed for "disillusion" so she had to pay her lawyer fees and I did not need one. Slowly getting my life back on track but still wake up every day lost and trying to figure this mess out.
Here's the craziness in todays world... We dated for two years, spent months planning a wedding, full day rehearsal, full day wedding, week long honeymoon, 36 years together and it all ended with a 9 minuet Zoom meeting! That's right! I got divorced via a zoom meeting. Just crazy...

It will get better. In 10 years you will be grateful. What was her name.
Like may have said, you dodge a bullet, and a train wreck.

 

[CRJR45]

Bitches be crazy !


The house is just an asset , don't assign sentimental value to it . Take some time to get your head straight , then look at your options . You can do whatever you want now , buy an RV and travel , move to another state , anything .

What you can't do is wallow in self pity or dwell over the past . Divorce is like a death of a loved one , it's over and gone and will never make sense . Accept it and move forward .

 

[brokeasajoke]

Hey guys, thanks for all the kind words. I know things will get better but it's still a blow to your ego. Holidays coming up and I'm worried about those. Close friends have been trying to keep me busy doing stuff. A good shooting buddy has got me into steel challenge pistol shooting and it's fun. Bet I haven't shot any of my rifles more than twice since July, missed my gold status renewal on here but shifting priorities have changes focus on money for now. I'll keep checking in and staying up to date.
Thanks, guy's!

@Forum Boss could we do a group donation or something to get his status back? I'm good for $10 or if no one else is interested I'll cover all.

 

[argrendel]

Sorry to hear it. Get a dog and you will be happier.

That is some of the best advice yet! Unconditional love…. Hell, two dogs! Don’t forget, chicks like puppie…

if she makes three times the income you do, that’s something to think about. If the rolls were reversed, you’d be paying big time! Especially if you worked to put her through college.

 

[Lefty Trigger]

@Forum Boss could we do a group donation or something to get his status back? I'm good for $10 or if no one else is interested I'll cover all.

No, please don't. I'm getting there and will be fine. It's just an adjustment period and shifting finances around the get everything back on track.
I do thank you for the very kind offer and suggestion!

 

[Lefty Trigger]

Yip after 36 yrs that would suck, big time. We all know two sides to every story, however sounds like you are better off, and with time it will be get better. Keep busy with the rest of life, dont dwell on it, that can eat up a person real quick. Dont be ashamed to talk to your doc, some times the medication helps.

Even after 50 yrs with the same woman I ask myself Am I better off with her, or without. ? So far we have stuck it out. Think both of us to bull headed and stubborn to walk away.

Hang tough.!

I know this forum is not the place to vent all this crap but daily now I feel a huge stress is gone in my life. With her being a "top tier" nurse and making all that money she was constantly buying trips and things for her friends. Back in 2021 she took off for a girls weekend (4 days) in Savanna on my birthday! My kids were really tore up over that. Missing her birthday would have been a world ending event...

 

[Liven The Dream]

Brother pick yourself up and get snapping. Hard to do but life is short.
There is a bright light at the end of your Tunnel .

 

[USMCDOC]

Feel Blessed and don't look back man!

 

[M-61]

I know this forum is not the place to vent all this crap but daily now I feel a huge stress is gone in my life. With her being a "top tier" nurse and making all that money she was constantly buying trips and things for her friends. Back in 2021 she took off for a girls weekend (4 days) in Savanna on my birthday! My kids were really tore up over that. Missing her birthday would have been a world ending event...

Actually I see nothing wrong with venting here on this site. Remember your friends will normally tell you what they feel you want to hear. All with best intentions but not necessarily beneficial.
Your first sentence says volumes. “… I feel a huge stress is gone in my life.”
So here’s my take on that, Stress KILLS. I’ve watched too many people under go horribly stressful situations and the next thing you know I’m getting my suit dry cleaned to attend a funeral. 36 years is a long run but you say in 2021 things we’re not right. My guess is a number of those 36 years was no walk in the park.
So screw it. Your kids really aren't kids’ anymore and they’ll get past it.
So you look ahead to a new rifle or whatever.
Truthfully I feel women are like a bus. You wait 15 minutes and another comes along.
Clear relaxed head. Stress free.

 

[markT]

I hate that for you.. My x and I agreed that we would be better off divorced.. I was miserable and so was she.. We didn't own anything so wasn't expensive.. Time will heal, even though the memories and stigma will always be there and you will ask yourself why....It doesn't matter why... You owe it to yourself to live this one life, the way you want it to be lived... No 2nd chances my friend... Wish you the best..

 

[Rat Rifle]

Lefty, look at it as a car that ran out of warranty

 

[ragsflh]

time will heal all

 

[brokeasajoke]

No, please don't. I'm getting there and will be fine. It's just an adjustment period and shifting finances around the get everything back on track.
I do thank you for the very kind offer and suggestion!

My CFO I mean my wife takes care of all financial things since she became a stay at home mom. I'd be lost with out her. I never even look at my check but she's tighter than a banjo string as the saying goes, so no worries with her.

 

[shooterjon]

Long story short I have been through a divorce after 36 years of marriage. Wife decided she didn't want to be married anymore and took her shit and left. Kids are all grown and families of their own (they are just as confused as me). She gave me the house that is paid for because she makes triple the money that I do so even with the house paid for she stuck me in a jam. She filed for "disillusion" so she had to pay her lawyer fees and I did not need one. Slowly getting my life back on track but still wake up every day lost and trying to figure this mess out.
Here's the craziness in todays world... We dated for two years, spent months planning a wedding, full day rehearsal, full day wedding, week long honeymoon, 36 years together and it all ended with a 9 minuet Zoom meeting! That's right! I got divorced via a zoom meeting. Just crazy...

i Have been married 6 times.I can assure you your probably better off WITH OUT her than with her,it will just take a little time to get through it.
Stay well ,keep your eyes open there are many fish in the sea.
Shooterjon

 

[LuvDog]

Sucks to be blindsided like that. Look inward and realize you that you are more than 1/2 of a relationship.

Get back to what you want to do... and look at the positives - they may be hard to see now, but they are there.

 

[Riesel]

I'll have to say/type, this thread has been a real eye opener! ! !

 

[brokeasajoke]

I have became so dependent on my wife she had to make an "in case of death" binder. No lie. I can't imagine what Lefty is going through. I've seen it with friends though. To have your life ripped apart in 9min. Wow. Just wow.

 

[358WCF]

It's been almost 30 years for me. Time changes, among other things, perspectives.

 

[MislMan]

WELCOME HOME!!! Looking forward to hearing more from you.