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A talk with my Dad

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Bradley Walker

I called my Dad the other day and we chatted for a bit.

My dad and I never fear to skirt the most controversial topics. We are not afraid to debate in other words. We both like it. My Dad is old school, he is nearly 80 now and I am 45. He grew up poor and he was the first child in a large family to graduate college and then go on to get and graduate degree and eventually he became a college professor. So, my father is contradiction in terms… a country boy from Muskogee that grew up hunting and fishing (and is, in fact, an expert at both), played minor league baseball and coached professionally, was from the “don’t ask for help… just suck it up and survive” WW2 generation, and he spent 30 years in the collegiate world. So, he is like an old hippie, leftist, enviro wacko, redneck, jock, and I wouldn’t have it any other way… You can imagine that a lot of my ideas about the rise of Satanist world globalism, communism, and our impending enslavement don’t jive with his utopian idea of the Star Trek type government run environmental Big Brother super state… So, to say we have lively debates would be an understatement.

So, I have been working very hard to get in shape. Three years after my divorce (I was married 22 years) I decided I looked like crap. I applied the same logic to diet that I apply to politics and the world. Everything you are being told is a lie… Everything you think about yourself is a fraud, and a manipulation. Including the very food going into your mouth and the person you see in the mirror. So… I was talking to my Dad. I said “I’ve lost 50 lbs but I want a six pack. I want to look like a Marine in boot camp…”. He said, “Well that will never happen you are not 20 years old!!! At your age you can’t look like that…”

I said, “I doubt your father wore a different size pants at 45 than he did at 20…”
He said, “You know that is actually correct.”

I continued, “You know 50 years ago men did not die fat. For the most part, they stayed the same size their whole lives. They were lean and strong, they didn’t worship food and there were lots of 50 year olds with six packs… It’s just become acceptable that we are all fat now… and that we are supposed to get fatter and sicker the older we get… This is a lie. It’s programming… It’s the post Oprah, big Ag lobbying world saying “eat this and you will be healthy… Corn flakes are good for you but Doritos are bad for you and in fact they are the same fried corn crap… but we know what’s best for you”.

People laugh at me when I eat a bowl of skinless chicken for lunch… Well they used too… Not so much any more… Four months and 50 lbs later… Oh, but that will kill you… Eat your corn flakes… or Doritos… they are both good for you…

That was the first time in a long time I told my father something that disagreed with his world view and he had nothing to say… It was quite satisfying. Brad
 
Good job. If you want to get scared look up what they can put in your food and not put it on the label. Then look up those chemicals in an online MSDS. I did and it is amazing how any of us are alive.
 
Nice Job Brad. I am a Crossfit coach here in WA state and have seen your story first hand many times now. People come into my gym having tried all of the mainstream fitness gimmicks and diets. 6 months of crossfit and a real humans diet of meat and vegetables and they are 50 lbs or more lighter. Ive seen many 60 year olds with 6 packs in my line of work, you at 45 can definitely do it!
 
I am sure there are many sons on here would appreciate the opportunity to have a conversation with their dad while he was alive.

I too enjoy my conversation with mine and he turns 85 in a few days. I receive no self satisfaction debating a man of many heart aches from his life time journeys.

Cherish the moments with him and look for his victories. He is the only one you will ever have. Not many will listen to you as he does when he is not there for you.
 
"Eat food. Not too much. Mostly plants." - Michael Pollan

Our 'food' has changed dramatically over the past 20 or 30 years, at least unless you 'grow your own.' We're omnivores but tend to believe we need something other than what our species has evolved to live on, mostly because that's what we're told we need to eat to be 'happy.'

I was 150 pounds when I graduated from high school, managed to stay that weight until about age 45 when I landed a fairly sedentary job. After a heart attack (my liver was trying to kill me!) at 56 then taking stock of where I was in life & where I wanted to be moving forward, when I saw the scale creeping up past 180 (a year ago after 2+ years' unemployment) I decided to make a change.

I touched 165 last August without too much trouble; presently at 170. Once the weather moderates & I can get back on my bicycle, plan is to lose ~ 15 pounds this year then stay close to 155.
 
Bradley,

Good job on the wieght loss.

I'm happy you can still talk to your dad. I can not.

Prone/mat shooting should improve.
 
Bradley,
Job well done! our fathers are the same age, mine is a hard core right wing conservative, I am all of that and then some, (radical),he and I talk all the time and I will miss the day that no longer happens, I lost 68 lbs a few years back and got down to my fighting weight of 200 lbs now I am 245 again and was 258 so I am on the down swing also and plan this time to stay there once I make it!!! at 49 I have 10 months until 50 and I want to loose it slow so it stays off but I want it off by then.
Wayne.
 
Going back to the "diet" of our parents and grandparents... One thing that sticks with me is when my wife had gestional diabetes with our first kid, this was 21 yrs ago at the height of the dont eat eags, dont eat bacon, it will kill you, etc... I commented to the dietician my wife was seeing that my grandparents grew up on red meat, eggs and cream and lived into their 90's without issues.. She said it is as simple as we dont work as hard (physically) as they did........

Also, a very intersting book to read on "current" diet of Americans; "Wheatbelly."

Good chat with your Dad, Brad and good luck on your goals...

Rod
 
Nodak7mm said:
this was 21 yrs ago at the height of the dont eat eags, dont eat bacon, it will kill you, etc... I commented to the dietician my wife was seeing that my grandparents grew up on red meat, eggs and cream and lived into their 90's without issues..

That was also when the corn lobby gained absolute and total control over the farm lobby in Washington.

My diet is EXACTLY as you described. It's not really a diet... It's just the way people used to eat before the central controllers told us that the "slave diet" is better.

My native American ancestors only ate meat and some berries.... No corn flakes...
 
Thank everyone for your kind comments.

It really hasn't been much of a sacrifice. I was just lucky enough to stumble onto something that works... Something that is obvious as the fat on your a$$ but no one wants to see it.
 
Good for you Brad and enjoy dad while you can.

I could stand to lose 20 or 30 pounds. I've been working out and getting stronger, just not shedding the lbs. I suppose I'd better get some aerobics in :D We eat mainly boneless white meat and salads, although I do like my chocolate.

PS: they can have my chocolate after they get my guns :D
 
Well to maintain ketosis you can't cheat... Ketosis is what burns the fat (that and simply the fact that complex proteins and fats require more calories to process than you can absorb... unlike sugars and grains).

I do have a "carb up" day every week. I never skip. Not because I crave carbs (I don't) but because the glycogen stores in your liver will become depleted and I hit the wall at about 10 days, and I simply run out of energy and feel tired. Since I don't eat many carbs (I am actually supposed to be at 40 to 60 grams a day by this point but I don't) I have to have a cheat day. On my cheat day I like pie, ice cream. malts, etc I do enjoy a Snickers or Hershey bar too. No bread. When I eat bread I feel fat and bloated for two days.

Actually the cheat day fools your body into not going into starvation mode. Like a weekly feast back in the old days. Sundays everyone would have a big meal. Then go back to measured portions during the rest of the week.

Now people "feast" every day.

I actually lose the most weight of the week two days after the cheat day....
 
Bradley, It sounds like you found the "Paleo Diet" that we Crossfiters Preach so much. You are on the exact right track! Keep it up!
 
Youre on it! Like I said before, Ive been Coaching crossfit for about 5 years now. Was super competitive back in 2010-2012 placing 23rd in Northwest Regionals for the Crossfit Games in 2010. Now Im strictly Olympic weightlifting and recently qualified to compete for the National Championships in August. Training so much I rarely get to shoot anymore. What Crossfit Gym are you going to?
 
mao0720 said:
What Crossfit Gym are you going to?

I never heard of it before your post. I was just shocked to find there were other people doing what I am doing.

I work out at Planet Fitness... HAHAHA!!! I think I am going to join a boxing gym. I am tired of the elliptical.
 
Find a crossfi gym in your area. Shouldn't be hard, just google search Crossfit (wherever you live). There is a least one crossfit gym In most major cities and a lot of small cities and towns. It WILL be the hardest you've ever worked out, but WILL increase your weightless exponentially and get you the fittest you've ever been. Unless you actually plan on boxing I wouldn't bother with a boxing gym.
 

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