The point where a bullet touches the origin of the rifling, a point on the angled part of the rifling where it begins at the front of the chamber, is determined without neck tension. There are several methods. I have a gauge that Sinclair sells that requires a fired case, a bullet, and uses an adapter that fits in the rear action bridge of a bolt action, and which works in conjunction with a rod and a couple of stop collars.
In the correct use of the word, which has been widely misused, jam is the maximum length that a bullet may be loaded to, without being pushed back as the round is chambered. It depends on neck tension (difference between sized and loaded neck diameter), interior neck and bullet coefficients of friction, thickness of the neck, and the length of a bullet's engagement in the case neck.
Jump is the amount that a bullet is seated short of touch, which is the same as out of the lands. Into the rifling or longer than touch means exactly the latter.
The shape of a particular bullet's ogive and the throat or leade angle of the barrel determine how many thousandths there are between touch and jam.
When one says that a bullet is seated so man thousandths off of jam, he may still be longer than touch, or not (because of the distance between jam and touch).
Beware of taking advice given on the internet. Learn to do your own load workups, loading at the range, using wind flags, and a chronograph. Fellows that come to the internet asking for a good load, and then load that exact load and shoot it, take a great risk, because of the extreme variations in the pressure that a given load will produce in different barrels and chambers, and the variations in speed of different lots of powder, and the differences in weight of different brands of brass that result in significantly different volumes and hence pressures. If you use a case of smaller volume, a powder from a fast lot, a hotter primer, in a chamber with a shorter throat, and a tighter bore, that the fellow that you got the load from, they can add up to a lot of extra pressure on top of what may already have been a hot load. Don't go there.