I've been missing for a while, slowly getting back.

[SGK]

My 2 cents. Really just try to let it all slide. Don't carry any grudges or, worse, make some up where they don't exist. Keep all the happy memories and don't dwell on the negatives. That's not to say that's easy, it's not. But you will be better off down the road if you simply take the view that life is taking another bend in a long windy path. It does get easier and there is life after divorce. Been divorced for 3 years. First year was absolute sh*t. But good as gold now. (And surprisingly even on good terms with my ex. Who would have thought.)

 

[Jager]

Sometimes that woman we live with ain't the same girl we once knew. And although it's hard to see now, down the road you'll probably look back and thank your lucky stars for how things turned.

But, yeah, it sucks in the moment. Just know that you'll be fine.

 

[jackieschmidt]

If that’s your biggest concern you are looking good!
A tip: Be sure to eat properly regardless of your worries, when you are by yourself it’s easy to choose poor eating habits.
So get your insurance and eat well. Looking good.

^^^^^^
+100 on this.
When you get up in years, nothing destroys your self esteem and desire to get things done more than bad health. Depression can lead to a sedentary life where you end up sitting in a chair, eating processed junk food, gaining weight, and developing many of the so called old peoples ailments that lead to the grave. Or perhaps worse, lead to a physical condition that makes life a burden.
I have several friends that have done just that.
When you hit that mid seventies mark, it is much easier to avoid these pitfalls than trying to rebound after you have succumbed to them.

I know it sounds preachy. It takes will power to keep going. It is a daily process.
Get in the habit of weighing yourself every morning. Far too many of those up in years are far too over weight. Figure out what is a good weight for you and if you see even one pound more, slack off. One will lead to two, two to three, and so on.

around 10 years ago, when I had turned 65, I had crept up to about 190 pounds. I was getting headaches. I felt like I was eating right and getting plenty of exercise.
But I was the guy walking around with a 48 ounce Dr Pepper all day. That was my drug of choice. That, and fried chicken.
So I went cold turkey on both. I quit all of them. You will never see me drink a soft drink, either sweet or diet. I also avoid fried foods as much as possible. Within three months I dropped to 178, and I stay right there. I have very few health problems.
That convinces me that those damned Soft Drinks are pure poison. what ever is in them that make them so satisfying is taking years off the end of your life.

 

[Rsadams]

Horrible... Keep your head up and keep moving forward... I guess it could have been a lot worse.... Most things can... Sorry to hear that....

 

[M-61]

^^^^^^
+100 on this.
When you get up in years, nothing destroys your self esteem and desire to get things done more than bad health. Depression can lead to a sedentary life where you end up sitting in a chair, eating processed junk food, gaining weight, and developing many of the so called old peoples ailments that lead to the grave. Or perhaps worse, lead to a physical condition that makes life a burden.
I have several friends that have done just that.
When you hit that mid seventies mark, it is much easier to avoid these pitfalls than trying to rebound after you have succumbed to them.

I know it sounds preachy. It takes will power to keep going. It is a daily process.
Get in the habit of weighing yourself every morning. Far too many of those up in years are far too over weight. Figure out what is a good weight for you and if you see even one pound more, slack off. One will lead to two, two to three, and so on.

around 10 years ago, when I had turned 65, I had crept up to about 190 pounds. I was getting headaches. I felt like I was eating right and getting plenty of exercise.
But I was the guy walking around with a 48 ounce Dr Pepper all day. That was my drug of choice. That, and fried chicken.
So I went cold turkey on both. I quit all of them. You will never see me drink a soft drink, either sweet or diet. I also avoid fried foods as much as possible. Within three months I dropped to 178, and I stay right there. I have very few health problems.
That convinces me that those damned Soft Drinks are pure poison. what ever is in them that make them so satisfying is taking years off the end of your life.

Absolutely very sound advice. When I read a post of jackieschmidt’s earlier I know he’s been married a long time. GOD BLESS. Maybe 51 years if I recall.
Me too if you add all 3 marriages up. My point is his point! But being alone the chances of staying on a proper diet are not good at all. You really have to make a determination to eat well. Which means making and eating friggin vegetables! I eat to live, I do not live to eat, so it’s really easy to eat junk. I never ran out of cherry pepsi.
Fortunately your biggest concern in later posts regarding your divorce seemed to paying for health insurance. If that’s true you’re in an enviable position. Pay your insurance and tackle the items that are easy to hurt you. Starting with a proper diet.
I agree 100% with Jackie and the soft drinks. I stopped completely. Not easy but it did wonders for my diabetes!

 

[Sniperhandle]

Can’t add much. Lost my first wife to Cancer 8 years ago so I can relate to your loss though. Life goes on. #1 is to take good care of yourself! Get to bed and make sure you get plenty of rest and have good sleeping habits. Eat a balanced diet. Get some exercise and maintain reasonable health. Get to know the Lord as someone mentioned above (pun?). If you get depressed, go do something for someone else. It’s amazing how serving others can make you feel better.

This may sound strange right now but you’ll look back and see she did you big favor at some point in the future.

Wow! Your story is almost identical to mine, And we are both in Utah! I lost my wife to Cancer 8 1/2 years ago also, It takes time to heal from that and no longer having your lifelong partner with you every day, And the toll that it takes on you of constant care and long trips to the doctor and getting very little sleep, You feel guilty of being glad when it's over even though you loved her so much!

I took some time off and went fishing and hunting to the point I got sick of it, I tried to do as much stuff with the grandkids as I possibly could etc. Eventually you feel better and you move past it. Like another poster said, Look at the bright side, You can do whatever you want without having to ask anybody! You want a new Long Range rifle, Build it or buy one, You want to go on a trip, Take some vacation from your job and see some sights.

If the right woman happens along I would definitely get married again, But I won't settle for anyone but the best! Looks aren't all that important, Although that's a plus. Look for a woman with a sweet personality that is content with what she has and not high maintenance, And shares the same beliefs and values as you do, It makes life so much easier! One last thing I would like to add, I had thoughts of leaving this world, Don't succumb to those thoughts! I would have missed some awesome things in my life, Like watching two of my grandkids graduate so far, Anyway, I wish the you best Lefty! You take care!