It is best to narrow the context of the kind of shooting or the type of gun we are discussing to get a more refined answer. Even naming the cartridge and bullet will help with keeping the discussion focused. What would be considered appropriate for one context, would be completely wrong in another. That said...
I’m curious what seating depth others use in their initial powder charge testing? And why?
The decision to even include jam in a new rig context, would depend on your willingness to run with all the factors that go along with it.
If using jam is on the table, and we have no pressure background data to pull from, I would still start with a jump of 0.010" - 0.020" for the first charge pressure tests and then explore the seating depth/jam.
I generally test powder charge starting about 2-3% under max charge weight and I work up in 0.2 or 0.3 grain increments. What increments are you guys using? And why?
Again, this is another "it depends" answer based on the context.
For example, the case volume and bullet weight will determine some of this, and the history determines the rest.
A higher energy rig is naturally going to use a higher volume case, so a fine step in one of those is going to look big compared to something like a 223.
If we have a history with the pattern of the gun, cartridge and bullet, then we don't need as much caution or fine data. We would already know roughly where to look and what to expect.
On the other hand, starting a wildcat where there is no published data means you will likely use a much finer step early in the explorations, and then decide on which charge weights to explore with follow up tests.
A 0.2 grain sweep is appropriate for something like a known design where you already have a good idea of where and how wide your window should be, but not if you are completely in the dark. Some rigs don't have known performance or a wide tune window, others could almost shoot anything you feed them.
I am not shy about using internal ballistics codes, both public and private, before I start to plan for a day at the range. I will also often only pre-load some of the test, and load the rest at the range so I can adjust plans on the fly.
New barrels take some shots to settle. If you are in uncharted territory with a new barrel, learning to load at the range saves a lot of time and you go home with more answers than questions.
If you are not talking about a wildcat that has no published pressure data or recipes, then it is better to name the details and your answers would be more focused. YMMV