There are always two focal planes in a riflescope. The first or front focal plane is where the image from the objective lens is first "rendered". This FFP is at the front of the erector tube and it is the size of the inner diameter of the main tube. The front end of the rector tube is moved up and down and side to side by the elevation and windage turret and simply looks at a different spot on the focal plane as it moves. The erector tube massages the image it sees at the front and "renders" an image at its rear, at the second focal plane. The eyepiece transmits the image of the second focal plane afocally to your eye, which then focuses the image onto your retina. The eyepiece does NOT focus the image to your eye, it collimates the rays (keeps them parallel) to your iris, which does the focusing.
The difference between FFP and SFP is that in an FFP riflescope the image of the reticle (notice the spelling), is merged with the image of the target (and whatever else the erector tube sees) and is then flipped and zoomed before being "rendered" on the SFP. This means the FFP reticle will remain in proportion with the remainder of the image and as you zoom, the FFP reticle will grow, whereas an SFP reticle will remain the same size and will shrink in relation to the image.
Lots of people swear by FFP reticle for its proportion retention, great for corrections and so on. But for us F-class shooters, the FFP reticle is something to be avoided at all costs. We love that our reticles get more precise, more surgical as we twist that zoom. Placing the MTR-WFD reticle at 80X on an F-class target is pure sex. (Ok, I'm old.)
So FFP or SFP is not the issue for you. As I explained earlier, the riflescope is essentially an afocal device through which you look with your far vision. The riflescope does NOT magnify the target, it brings it closer. I am not an eye doctor (an ophthalmologist) and I don't play one on TV or on the internet, so I cannot help you much, except perhaps to explain how a riflescope works. I think you are having issue setting the eyepiece correction (diopter) properly and are definitely trying to focus on it, thereby defeating yourself. I would suggest you place it a 0 or -0.5 and spend more time playing with the side focus. I would also suggest you find an eye doctor that's also a shooter. They can better help you.