Yes, the locking nut with the PT&G unithroater seemed to work well, such that I was able to advance the throat about 0.050. But my question is more about the dummy round—how do I decide how deeply to seat the bullet and still avoid the neck/shoulder junction? Is there a better way to measure than just holding a bullet next to the case and eyeballing it?
There is no hard and fast rule about how much bullet bearing surface you have to have in the neck. As noted above, many just eyeball it. The human eye is more than capable of giving sufficient accuracy in terms of placing the bullet in the neck. I prefer to seat bullets with the boattail/bearing surface junction somewhere between one fourth and halfway out the neck (i.e. above the neck/shoulder junction). In many cartridges, seating the bullet with the boattail/bearing surface junction ~halfway out the neck will give approximately one half caliber of bullet bearing surface in the neck, which is plenty.
Quickload reloading software uses SAAMI case measurements to provide a numerical output of how deep in the neck a bullet will be seated at a given COAL. This is a nice feature to have and is useful when making estimates of how far a rifle needs to be throated out with a given bullet. However, there are caveats involved in the use of these outputs. First, their accuracy may be questionable depending on how
your specific cases are sized with respect to SAAMI standards. I'd expect variance caused by this to generally be pretty small and not worth much concern.
Also, until the rifle has been throated out and seating depth optimized at the new charge weight and COAL, there is no way to be 100% positive exactly where a new load will tune in with respect to seating depth in relation to the lands. For example, let's say you previously had a well-tuned load with the bullet boattail/bearing surface junction very close to the case neck/shoulder junction (i.e. almost all the way down in the neck). In that load, let's also say you found the optimal seating depth was .020" off the lands. If you were to throat that rifle out by an additional .100" or so to move the bullet boattail/bearing surface junction farther out (i.e. closer to the middle of the neck), you have now changed several load parameters, such as increasing the effective internal case volume. A new load will require more powder to achieve the same velocity, and it will do so at slightly less pressure than was required previously. There is no guarantee that in the new load the bullet will still want to be seated at .020" off the lands in the new configuration. You can only know this with certainty by doing a seating depth test. The bullet might tune in at .020" off the lands in the new load, but it might easily tune in somewhere else.
So you can see how you might end up with a "chicken or the egg" scenario. For that reason, "eyeballing" the location of boattail/bearing surface junction is usually more than sufficient. In a cartridge with a neck length of approximately one caliber, if you keep the boattail/bearing surface junction somewhere from between about one fourth the way out the neck to no more than just under three fourths the way out the neck, you will have approximately half a caliber or slightly under in which to adjust seating depth. Likewise, if you take the more conservative route and keep the boattail/bearing surface junction between one fourth and halfway out the neck, you would have approximately one fourth caliber to play with in terms of seating depth adjustment. For example, that would mean a useful seating depth test range of almost .060" for a .224" bullet, and almost .080" for a .308" bullet, which is usually sufficient. Although there might possibly be a scenario with a certain bullet where this range could be problematic, it works quite well in the vast majority of instances and is why "eyeballing" the boattail/bearing surface junction is usually sufficient.