The amount of difference in loaded and unloaded neck diameters is not the only thing that affects the amount of force that it takes to move a bullet in the case neck. The thickness, and hardness of the necks, and length of engagement in the neck also figure in.
First of all, to accurately work with seating depths, you need the tools necessary to measure the length of loaded rounds off of their ogives, with calipers that measure to .001. It also helps to have a way to easily find the length at which bullets touch the rifling, if that is the reference that you are going to use. Do you have these tools?
As far as pushing the bullet back, benchrest shooters use jam as a specific length that is where a bullet is pushed back to if loaded a little long. This length is specific to a particular barrel, and amount of neck tension. If you want to find out how much difference there is between touching and this length, first measure length (off of the ogive) that has the bullet touching the rifling, then load a bullet so that it is perhaps .020 longer, measure the rounds OAL (again, off of the ogive), chamber and unchamber the round, and then remeasure it. If the length is shorter after chambering you have the jam lenght for that bullet, barrel, and neck tension, and the difference between that length, and the one measured with the bullet just touching the rifling, is the range within you can vary seating depth seating into the rifling. Some of the longer bullets may have a tendency to stick when they are pushed back into the case, while determining what jam is. A light film of bolt grease on the bullet, in the area where the rifling will mark it, may help prevent this. If .020 longer than touching does not cause the bullet to be pushed back when the round is chambered, either resize that case and try loading a little longer, or use another sized case for a second try.