rwj
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You raise an interesting topic that is under discussion a lot these days and there are a number of viewpoints on the subject. In some of the companies I've worked for over the years (often software startups moving at a rapid pace), arguments would get overheated in the pressure of the moment. When it was over, we'd all go out for a beer. Of course those where the days when 60-80 hours a week were the norm in that field and we rarely got out for that beer before 9 or 10 at night. There were times when we'd send management out to bring beer back to the office. Those who argued the most intensely are still the best of friends. Passion is not a bad thing as long as one can either reach compromise or admit defeat.
In later years as companies became more sensitive to the emotional needs of the individual, us old timers have noticed that it is much more difficult to get to the root cause of any particular issue. We (my old friends and I) find that tossing a grenade into the middle of the conversation and heating up the discussion a bit usually results in the core issues surfacing rather rapidly. Once surfaced, they can be addressed and most feel pretty good about it. However, these days you do have those who are traumatized by the process of arriving at truth. Will coddling help those individuals deal with life? I have my doubts.
Leaving your ego at the work door/gate when entering makes it easy to focus on business needs, which is why you’re employed. Making work interactions personal will always cause problems! Those that don't are the ones that can share a beer after work.