Like SPJ is saying, there is jam and then there is jam...
For example, bullets are not all made with equal ogive geometry, or jacket materials, and some are hybrids such that the part of the bullet that engraves is a different curvature than the nose. And then there is the matter of the reamer differences, rifling differences, and the throat wear. All of which mean that context matters.
You can even elect to soft-seat the bullets such that chambering them will only jam them to the limit of the neck friction force and then they slip further into the neck. This method works for some folks, but I have seen folks damage their lugs playing with the method before they realize what galling can do to their lugs.
If you play with jam, be sure to keep your chamber and lug area very clean and keep the bolt lugs lubricated.
Since different folks will call the touch point differently, the same can be said for their neck tension values and how much they are calling a jam.
Practice in your shop with dummy cartridges before you load anything and get used to what can happen with your present prep method and different seating depths. When you play around with increasing the amount of NT or jam, you can then set your experimental limit for live loads. Just be very careful with your lugs and think ahead to how you will shoot in the field so that you are realistic about how much torque and force you want to place on your bolt when chambering at a maximum.
With luck, your rig will show you good performance without being dramatic or requiring heroic forces on the hardware.