Paul, you are a crafty fellow - make a "seater-stem", which is a nice slip-fit in your current comparator, and long enough to contact the bullet nose (about where your "real" stem contacts
the nose) and to protrude out the "muzzle" end, when the bullet is seated against the [comparator] lands.
Measure the variation in stem protrusion . . .
with bullets from a single die, variation should be scant, while bullet-base, to stem could drive you nutz, or, not!

Though I have never had one in hand, I believe this is probably (a variation of) how the Bob Green comparator works.
There can always be "stinkers" - look at what a jacket must survive during point-up - we expect
the jacket material to display some contrary attributes: malleable & ductile, yet springy (well, slightly) . . .blah, blah, blah. That's why I like barrels which deliver the goods via a "jam-seat", as opposed to jumpers.
Please let us know what you observe. RG